The arrival of autumn brings all sorts of seasonal entertainments, including football, new TV shows and old shows that start the season with a gimmick. CBS’ The Talk, now in its third year, came up with a goodie: Each day of kick-off week would feature one of the five co-hosts revealing a personal secret. Oooh juicy?
I smelled a PR stunt and expected the ladies to share softball sins like shoplifting in junior high or telling a lie to get into an L.A. party. I wasn’t disappointed when Julie Chen announced that she’s had plastic surgery. Big surprise. Sharon Osbourne said she slept with Jay Leno before either of them was married — yeah, that was newsy.
Julie Chen explained that executive producer John Redmann “wanted all of [the cast] to hear it for the first time live on the show so that it would be organic.”
Winner winner chicken dinner. A confession from Aisha Tyler, who you may know from stand-up comedy or roles in The Ghost Whisperer or The Santa Clause 3, brought her co-hosts to tears. Apparently, she’s been trying to get pregnant through IVF, but, the big reveal was that Ms. Tyler, 42, and her husband, lawyer Jeff Tietjens, have decided to stop the effort.
There wasn’t a dry eye in my house, either.
It’s not every day that you see a comedian share something that makes her cry. Her story isn’t so unfamiliar: Though she married in 1992, she was all about her career. She was all about her life, but she waited too long.
Ms. Tyler says she and her husband only recently “pulled the goalie” and stopped using birth control. When nothing came of it, she went for an exam. She was told that after age 40, a woman’s chances to get pregnant are 2-8%. She decided to try in vitro fertilization (IVF) and chose not to involve any of the other four women who share The Talk table.
The cause of infertility in Ms. Tyler’s case is curved, or “tortuous” fallopian tubes, and IVF can be a painful, expensive process, tortuous in itself. After learning that her chances of conceiving are less than 5%, she’d had enough. She did a good job trying to get through her story without tears, but she failed. I doubt if anyone could have kept it together. I sure couldn’t.
“I married my husband because I loved him, and I don’t feel like there’s anybody missing from our marriage, but when you think about this person that you love, and you think about what a wonderful thing it would be to bring another person like that into the world, I think that’s the hardest part about all of it.”
Aisha Tyler may yet become a mother; she shared that she loves kids and isn’t against adoption. Today, however, she’s a NotMom grieving the baby she’ll never carry. In a post-show interview, she said she “wanted women that were also in this stage to feel like they’re not alone.” I want Aisha to know she’s not alone.
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