I’ve just had an e-conversation with a chapter head of No Kidding!, the international social club for adults and singles who don’t have children. It’s definitely not a dating organization. That part I knew, but I’d assumed that membership was limited to women and men who are childless by choice. Wrong! All are welcome.
No Kidding! was started in 1984 in Vancouver, Canada. Look for a chapter near you in U.S. and New Zealand and Canada. Didn’t find it? It’s not that hard to start one: a one-time payment of $50 and a heap of energy and time.
This is no dating club, at least, not intentionally. A number of men have made it clear to me that they can lose a friend when kids arrive, too. I can see how the opportunity to meet other NotDads might be appreciated. Regardless of gender, it’s usually an occasional happy accident when one NotMom meets another. At No Kidding! activities, the space is full of People Like You. Well, in one sense, anyway.
The chapter in my area uses Facebook to post announcements for what are basically meet-ups at restaurants and other large venues (arts and music fairs, comedy shows, sports events, that kind of thing). A No Kidding! provided probably sounds special only to someone without children, and I supposed that’s just as well.
If you’re wondering how childfree people could ever link up with people who wanted kids but never had them, I believe the cause of a person’s childlessness – by choice or by chance – doesn’t get in the way of friendships half as much as our parent friends may think. Age is a bigger deal.
I’ll report back once I’ve attended my first No Kidding! event. If you’re a member of the group, how’s it going? Thumbs up or down?