This post is by TheNotMom team writer Laura LaVoie:
Mother’s Day is pretty low-impact for this NotMom. I call my own mother and talk to her, see how she is doing, and tell her I love her. I might post on Facebook to acknowledge all of the other Moms in my life – like my sister and some of my oldest friends. But then, I go about my regular business. I’m not a Mom, so the day just isn’t that important to me.
I’m not so sure it should be important to anyone.
Here’s the thing. Do we really need just one day a year to tell our Moms that we love them?
Or is it, as many suspect, a way for card companies to be sure that people are buying cards every month of the year. “Hmm, it’s May,” they said. “No one is really going to send Memorial Day cards, are they? We need something punchier! Something catchy! How about Mother’s Day!”
None of us would be here without our mothers. Each personal interaction with Mom is different. Some adult mother/daughter relationships are incredibly close. They may speak every day. Others have a more distant relationship with their Moms and may not communicate at all. The rest most likely fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum.
But, do we need one single day to honor our Moms? Shouldn’t we thank them and tell them we love them throughout the year?
As someone who is childfree by choice, Mother’s Day is just another day. I may call my Mom and talk to her, but my day isn’t filled with mother-related events. Imagine someone who is childfree by chance? Someone who desperately wanted children in their lives. Someone who wanted to hear a little voice tell them “Happy Mother’s Day, Mom!” Mother’s Day may not be a pleasant Sunday for them. It feels isolating and potentially painful. It is a way to create “otherness.” To separate the Moms from the NotMoms.
I don’t want to be a Mother’s Day killjoy, but I do want to stress that our Moms should be important to us all year-round, not just on the second Sunday of May. If you’re a Mom, you should know that your life has meaning every day. If you’re not a Mom, acknowledge the Moms in your life whenever you feel inspired.