Mother’s Day is just over 2 weeks away. In addition to the traditional meanings and activities that day, it’s also the first step of this site’s migration to a WordPress platform. The NotMom.com will stretch out into more of the space that “.com” provides, adding conversation and expanded info, including NotMom stats, and lifestyles.
I want to make it clear: No thoughts here of disrespecting the day that we remember the woman who gave us life. I’m glad there is a Mother’s Day. Truly.
However, reading comments to this blog and others for childfree and ‘by chance’ women, and by talking to women I know without kids, it seems clear that this holiday has hidden speed bumps. My childfree friends are sort of peeved to be confronted with ubiquitous pinks and cheery unearned good wishes. Women who once dreamed of their own Mother’s Day breakfast in bed had responses that ranged from sad to bitchy when asked a simple question:
“As a woman without children, what impact does Mother’s Day have on you, if any?”
Some women said they prefer to stay at home on Mother’s Day to avoid being given a free flower or other business “gifts” to women customers. Either they quietly accept the rose or whatever, or they refuse it, saying “I’m not a mother.” Consensus feedback is that gift givers generally push it more firmly in your direction saying “Take one anyway” adopting a tone bordering on sympathy. No childfree woman ever wants that kind of sympathy, and few By Chance women can bear it.
What about you, Dear Reader? Does Mother’s Day affect you positively, negatively, or not at all? Do you spend so much time with your own mother that you really don’t think about the more personal side of the day? Or do you go to the movies and lose yourself in a good comedy?
Your response will be a part of The NotMom.com’s inaugural expanded, redesigned format on Sunday, May 13th. Simply leave your comment by Tuesday, May 8th. Or, tweet me at @TheNotMom or drop a line on Facebook.