By Karen Malone Wright
Any day is good for a wedding, but June has been branded as “the” month for brides for generations. There was never a question. You’ll be at her wedding for sure. But, you won’t be bringing a date.
Preparation is the key, and a new dress is the easiest part. You’ll be the best looking female there. The challenge you face is inside your own head.
First, get some intel. Will anyone you know be there, female or male? Get in touch in advance so they’ll know to look for you. For an out-of-town affair, you might even want to share a hotel room or explore the city together.
Single ladies should remember that every wedding guest lists include several eligible single men. Wedding Crashers isn’t just a movie — it started with a two real-life guys. And I’ve personally heard men say weddings are a good place to meet single women. That doesn’t guarantee that you’ll find your own dream guy in the crowd, but you may find a dance partner other than the groom’s lascivious widowed uncle.
Because you will dance, not hide in a corner. Watch out for the open bar, though. You never want to be memorable for the wrong reasons!
The moment you may want to avoid the dance floor is when the DJ fires up Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” to signal the throwing of the bouquet. Get lost in the crowd or head to the ladies’ room. If you do choose to participate in this traditional ritual of bridesmaids and bride’s friends, fine. But if not, beware of tipsy family members eager to shove you into the fray while yelling, “Get out there, honey!”
Who’s at your dinner table? Don’t sink into depression if you’re surrounded by couples. They’ll talk with you if you talk with them. Once the conversation progresses beyond “How did you meet the bride or groom?”, launch into a topic to get some laughter going. Upcoming summer plans, or asking tablemates to share their craziest wedding stories.
The guests who get the bad rap at any wedding are often the newlyweds’ relatives. They may mean well, but questions like “Will you be next?”, “Why doesn’t a pretty girl like you have a husband?” and “You don’t have kids? What are you waiting for?” can kill your party vibe. Practice how you’ll respond, and exit. Stick and move, as the boxers say.
“I’ve been wondering the same thing!”
“I had a husband, and I’m better off without him!”
“Waiting? I love my life just as it is!”
Followed by, “Oh! Excuse me, but that’s my college roomie over there!” and move on to (hopefully) a less stressful group of people.
Ultimately, you decided to attend the wedding because you wanted to share a friend’s happiness. And at the end of the day, a wedding can be a great party, if you let it.