Soon after I dubbed Prince William’s bride as Kate, Princess of Why-Aren’t-You-Pregnant yet, I Googled the words “not pregnant yet.” I expected to find fertility sites and personal sagas. I did, but mixed in with them were Kate-like headlines:
Carrie Underwood-Not Pregnant Yet
No, LeAnn Rimes Is Not Pregnant…Yet
Beyonce’s Mom Says She’s Not Pregnant Yet
On and on. Lily Allen. Jennie Garth. The difference between their headlines and Kate’s is the sheer scope of a singular focus. Not every reporter screams “Are you going to have a baby soon?” at each Carrie Underwood appearance. Kate, on the other hand, can’t rest her hand on her belly button without speculation intensifying worldwide.
What I know is that asking a grown woman “Are you pregnant yet?” is almost never a good idea. If she’s having trouble conceiving, the last thing she wants is to be reminded of the problem. If she has clear goals that don’t include a baby in the near future (if ever), she just might tell you to mind your own business.
One of the good things about menopause is that it finally ends other people’s expectations of pregnancy. Whether it’s a pushy relative or a celebrity reporter, nobody’s raising their eyebrows at me with that goofy little “Are you…?” smile. One less pile of stress gone. Poof!
I like to believe that life provides balance in everything if you can stay sane long enough to see it.