When By Choice NotMom Cameron Diaz made the media rounds earlier this year, I kept wondering what really went on in her head as she strapped on a belly pad for What to Expect When You’re Expecting. Cameron, 39, recently told Redbook that she thought she’d “be married and have 2 kids by the time [she was] 21.” Bloggers and TV talk people are focusing on that comment, and others explaining her childfree status:
“I think I felt I had to model my life after my mother’s. But then my career was starting to take off and there were still so many things I wanted to do…I’m sure a lot of people would expect that I would have had a child by my age. But it’s not what I’ve wanted out of my life thus far.”
There’s not much Redbook that surprised me. Girl has traditional dreams of a house full of babies. Girl becomes movie star. Girl changes mind. OK. What did surprise me was Cameron’s response when the reporter asked if her mother bugs her about having children:
“My mom would never, ever do that. She’s happy when she sees me happy. If having children and a family was something I really wanted but couldn’t manage to have, my mom would feel bad for me. But since she’s never heard me say I want a baby or a husband, it’s not even a conversation between us.”
“It’s not even a conversation between us.” Wow.
That certainly wasn’t my experience. My mother never met a boundary she didn’t enjoy hopping across. NotMoms, if you can relate to Cameron’s story, count your blessings. NotMoms, speak out: Does your mother keep quiet, respecting your decisions and privacy about kids, or does she continue to drop hints and pry?