This is the first Mother’s Day for The NotMom.com, and we’re celebrating by sharing responses to the question:
If you don’t have kids, what’s Mother’s Day like for you?
“I will celebrate Mothers day at someones home prefer not to go to out. It is diffacult I am 43 we tried for 5 year in our 20’s after 3 tubals I was told no more. If we do go out getting that flower just makes me upset, I now try to stay home for this very special day and let the ladies that have children have a Happy Mothers day. I will call my mom and sister and tell them over the phone and then go and see one of my 6 neices or 6 nephews they are the only children I need.” —Sherri
“I still get to celebrate Mother’s day with my mom and I am very grateful for that but I still find Mother’s day depressing. I am 53 yrs old and was unable to have my own children as a result of chemotherapy 17 yrs ago. . When I mention how sad it makes me that I don’t have kids people remind me I have step children. My 2 step kids are great and I love them very much but believe me it’s not the same as having your own children.
I didn’t get to spend that much time with them as they were growing up and most mother’s days I was lucky if I got a last minute text message from them. I’ll never know the thrill of hearing a child call me mommy or grandma. My husband & I considered adoption but the costs are ridiculous. We have a lovely home and could provide a wonderful life for a child, we just could not afford to “buy” the child.
So as mother’s day approaches I have to see & hear commercials about being a mom, see all kinds of mother’s day posts on facebook and have well meaning people wish me a Happy Mother’s day. I know it’s only one day a year but it’s a painful day and will be even more painful when I don’t have my own mother to celebrate with.
I hope that anyone who is blessed with children appreciates what a gift it is because there are so many people out there like me who wish they could be a mom. We remain silent. No one really seems to think much about the women who can’t celebrate this day and how sad it makes them. I do.” —Lissa
“I was 43-years-old before I gave birth to my son. That’s a lot of Mother’s Days as a “NotMom.” Sometimes it was hard, but I had my own mother to celebrate and my sisters and friends to be proud of the great mothers they are. I lost my mother to cancer a year before my son was born. I truly believe he was a gift from my mother. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms and Notmoms. It’s a day to celebrate all women! —Julie