At the end of her childbearing years — rather, the years when a woman theoretically has all the parts working to produce a child — 1 in 5 American women is a NotMom. One in 5, and that’s the 40+ cohort. Add in the women younger than 40 who cannot physically bear a child, or choose not to, and NotMoms’ numbers are moving on up.
What to do with that info? How to find those women? And what to do with ‘em when I find them?
I can’t remember all of my personal “these aren’t my peeps” moments over the years: NotMoms have a range to choose from to describe what constitutes an “I-don’t-fit-in’ moment: labor stories can make some NotMoms cry, while others are bored to tears. What I know for sure is that every single time I’ve met another NotMom, there’s almost a relief on both sides. Conversation flows and no one has to defensively explain herself.
One out of 5 women are NotMoms. Wow. There’s a community out there …. for sure.