In just two minutes and twenty-eight seconds, journalist and TV personality Jacque Reid presented an open, earnest personal plea to people who ask questions about her uterus. As we’ve noted here before, Ms. Reid shows that after the basic yes/no question (“Do you have kids?), it’s the follow-up that can be problematic.
“When are you planning to have children?”
“Aren’t you running out of time to have children?”
“Don’t you want to have children?”
Acknowledging that most questioners have no malicious intent, Ms. Reid begins with the obvious reminder that while many women choose not to have a child, others want to give birth but are hindered by infertility. She adds the first really personal piece within a bigger statement that many women, like her, have chosen “to wait until marriage because we don’t want to do it on our own.” But, seconds later, she confesses that she had made attempts at IVF that failed. At some point, she did want to do it on her own.
If, for some reason you don’t have two minutes and twenty-eight seconds to watch the video (what a shame!), here’s what you really need to know: Ms. Reid ends the story by burying the lead. She advises well-meaning strangers, family and friends whose questions lead a NotMom into an unexpected “very personal, private, and often painful conversation”,
“The kind thing would be to mind your own business.”
And somehow, Ms. Reid shared all that and more while staring into a camera, knowing her words would circle the globe. The girl’s got guts.
I wonder what happened next. What reaction is she getting from family and friends? Is she breathing any easier, as I suspect she is, after speaking her truth out loud? Perhaps she’ll let us know.