Ah, January. New diets and gym memberships, organizing and planning, hope springing eternal all over the place. In that frame of mind, I was led to the concept of OLW. One Little Word. One word to declare where you are, and where you’re heading in 2013.
I said I was “led” to this idea (not “introduced to it” or “read about it”) because I found it in a post on a site I don’t visit as often as I should: CraftTestDummies. I’m friends with Jenny, the ‘craft evangelist’ behind the review and project ideas, but my time for crafts left in the ’90s. When Jenny wrote about her own OLW choice this year (“embrace“), it just felt as though I was meant to read it.
Professional scrapbook designer Ali Edwards gets the credit for sharing OLW with the world. January 2006 was the first time that she decided to sum up her hopes for the new year in just a few letters. This year, she chose “open”, and she writes about her own process:
” A word that I can focus on, mediate on, and reflect upon as I go about my daily life…You live with it. You invite it into your life. You let it speak to you. You might even follow where it leads. There are so many possibilities.”
Ms. Edwards stresses that this word is for and about YOU. Not your partner or mother or the friend who knows you best. This is not an endeavor to enter lightly. Think on it a while. Muse about what’s going on in your life, and what you want to achieve, and how you want to feel, in twenty-thirteen. Great. Now, find just one word to describe all that. Whew.
Me? I want Health, meaning a lifestyle that supports losing weight and sticking to an exercise regimen for more than 2 months. I want Balance as I juggle my time among my husband, the keyboard, networking, elder caregiving and me. Most of all, perhaps, I want this website to thrive. More readers. More opportunities to connect with sponsors, media and the real-life NotMoms I write about. More chances to bring up that Elephant In the Room that women without children share, whether childfree, child-free or childless. Add all that up, and my word for 2013 is “star.”
It came to me as I remembered a visit to a jewelry store days ago. I was only there chauffeuring my mom-in-law who needed a repair. I was magnetically pulled to a necklace glittering with the outlines of a star. Diamonds. Lots of them. The star had to be at least an inch wide and was absolutely nothing like anything I would ever, ever wear. I’d seen diamond star necklaces before, but this was something special. I couldn’t take my eyes off it. I walked away and came back. I actually asked the price. Almost $2,500!
And yet, all I remember thinking was, “I don’t want anything that big anyway. I want a teensy one that I’d be comfortable wearing almost every day to keep my head on straight. Like a touchstone.” Then, we left the store and I forgot all about it. Until now.
Please understand that my background in public relations is the very definition of “behind-the-scenes”. As a lesser man’s C.J. Craig or Olivia Pope, I’ve rarely taken action to bring me in front of the stage instead of behind it. Self-employed for the past 12 years, I’ve dragged my light from under its bushel in rare, planned spurts. I’m feeling ready to spurt again, and maybe this time I won’t stop.
Alone or in clusters, a star is “a self-luminous celestial body.” It beams and shines on others and for the sheer glory of it. Who thinks of an unhealthy star? Or a star so oddly shaped that its points are askew and out-of-balance? Yes, a star is outstanding, but the dictionary also says a star can be an “asterisk.” I love that, too. An asterisk is not an afterthought. An asterisk hints at depth: more information, more explanation, just…more.
My word is star. What’s yours?
(Photo Credit: This little beauty can be yours from Buy.com.)