Childless and childfree women come in lots of shapes and sizes. We are all colors, all cultures, and all ages. As much as we have in common, we are also very different. Some people say it is strange to define ourselves by things that we are not, so let’s determine what we are instead.
Childfree blogger Laura LaVoie interviews women bloggers without children who answer the question, “If you’re not a Mom, then what are you?
Samantha Pollack is a writer and holistic health coach who writes Feed Your Head, a blog about healthy eating and her own life experiences. In 2014, Samantha will supplement her posts with the launch of a healthy meal planning business for families of one or two. Stay tuned for more information.
Tell us about yourself and your website.
I’m Sam – that’s short for Samantha (people get confused). I reside in the mountains of Asheville, North Carolina, with my man and our…NOTHINGS. I’m 35 and have never wanted children.
My official title is Certified Holistic Health Coach. (I’m also a Certified Personal Trainer with about 10 years’ experience.) I write recipes almost every day and enjoy a passionate, somewhat obsessive relationship with good food (especially olives). I believe that humans are meant to eat Real Food – unprocessed, the way it comes in nature. If you do that, you don’t have to worry about the latest study or trend, or whether you ate too many calories today. (I believe in NOT counting calories).
I believe that eating right shouldn’t be such a big freaking deal. I believe in eating butter. And that wine counts as Real Food. I’m healthy, but I’m not a total weirdo. I might drink green juice every morning, but I also eat pizza sometimes. Oh! And, I have a wicked sweet tooth.
I created my new business, Insider Wellness, for the ‘rest of us’: childfree adults who work weird hours and sometimes eat toast for dinner. You can handle a recipe that showcases vegetables instead of sneaking them in. And, you don’t want to spend 4 hours making it, or have a fridge full of leftovers. That’s why I created this site – to provide an online meal planning service specifically tailored to small, childfree households. I hope to launch the site in January 2014. Meanwhile, I’m blogging regularly at Feed Your Head.
Why did you start blogging?
I’ve got something to say about good eating! It doesn’t have to be this huge, joyless chore where there’s never any pizza or chocolate cake. Good health has gotten a bad rap: it’s unattainable, you have to take 10,000 supplements and pay for fancy water….or ELSE. It’s all very serious and fun-hating. I say, why can’t it be fun, and funny even? Let’s all just lighten up a little bit. Have some cake already. Calm down.
I blog to spread this message (and because I like writing). Recently, I’ve added videos to the blog showcasing different topics. One feature I do regularly is share what I eat for lunch, to demonstrate how easy/tasty it is to eat well on a regular basis. Also, to show that you can eat healthy and still be cool, since I am obviously the coolest. (I’m kidding. Watch the videos; I’m a giant dork.)
What defines you and your life?
Now there’s a question you don’t get asked in casual conversation….
Me (n): An adventurous, hilarious, but sometimes way-too-serious perfectionist who has to practice lightening up. Thrives on morning “me” time, hard work, and green juice.
What defines my life? Close friends – laughing, trusting, sharing. I try to have adventures regularly, even if it’s something lame like going to the DMV. You could argue that food defines my life – I think about it, talk about it, and eat it pretty much all the time. I love it.
How do you feel you are treated as a childfree woman?
Honestly, I’ve been really fortunate. My family has always been supportive. I feel they respect and admire me for being kind of different. I’m also lucky to live in a community where many of my peers have chosen a childfree lifestyle.
Every once in a while, I find myself in an extremely kid-centered situation, and in those times, I do feel isolated by the Moms. It’s like I have absolutely nothing worth talking about if I don’t have kids. When that happens, I just hang with the kids! I identify more with them sometimes. But most of the time, I’m just grateful to be surrounded by so many like-minded men and women. Can’t complain.
What do you want readers and advertisers to know about women without children?
I don’t know if I speak for us all, but when I see words like ‘busy Moms’ and ‘family-friendly’ I just tune right out. I feel ignored by marketers (not that I’m complaining per se, but it strikes me as strange).
Speaking of which, this term ‘busy Moms’ has become my newest pet peeve. Are there any Moms who are NOT busy? Also – I’m not a Mom, but I’m really busy. When you ask anyone how they’ve been lately, 90% of them (childfree or otherwise) say, “busy.” Let’s work on a new word, OK?
Many people assume that as a childfree woman, I dislike children. I love kids, mostly. I will talk to a five-year-old about the finer points of Star Wars for an hour. I’ll even change a diaper! But after that, I like to come home to my clean, quiet, not-childproofed house and do whatever the hell I want.
Did you enjoy this interview? If so, and you’re a blogging NotMom interested in sharing your story, please let us know!