A young woman’s option to freeze her eggs before she’s ready to use them is becoming just another reproductive option for many Americans , . Much of that conversation, I’d assume, is happening among women in their 20s and 30s, the ones most affected.
The chatter gets a little louder, of course, when celebs are involved, and Karina Smirnoff’s decision to share her egg-freezing with the world got people of both genders talking. The Dancing with the Stars personality is 35 years old. Her doctor says, “Ideally, the procedure should be done before a woman is 35.”
I’m always happy when a woman knows her own mind well enough to put thoughts into action, but most of all, I’m happy Ms. Smirnoff chose to tell her story publicly. Is it any of our business? No, not really. But, for still-frustrated or grieving women who are childless by chance, it can be a little comforting to know when celebs make over-40 pregnancy look easy, they may have had a little help.
Alessandra Stanley, chief TV critic at the NY Times, explains there’s little about a female star’s body that can hide from today’s media: “In today’s 24-hour tabloid culture, signs of celebrity baby bumps, morning sickness and secret surrogacies are as closely monitored via telephoto lens and minicams as engagement rings and cosmetic surgery scars. Nothing is private anymore, and everything about celebrity parenthood is up for grabs and public exposure.
Maybe not every thing.
Surprise blends easily with envy at headlines about Salma Hayek giving birth to a daughter at age 41 or the arrival of Mariah Carey twins when she was 42. And the always amazing Halle Berry delivered children at ages 41 and 46.
May the truth set you free, because physicians are trying to spread the the word: “Older pregnant celebs often don’t ‘fess up to using eggs donated from a younger woman.”
As for their own pre-retrieved eggs, actresses may be reluctant to share any truth that might make her seem old. And in Hollywood, 40 is O-L-D. Therefore, egg freezing at 35 is cool; using your frozen eggs at 45 is perceived differently. Hopefully, that will change, but not today.
The first recorded birth from a frozen egg was more than 25 years ago, in 1986. There are many NotMoms too old to have had that option at hand, and we wish the best to those who do.
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