Single & Childless at the Wedding? No Worries.

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Any day is good for a wedding, but June has been branded as “the” month for brides for generations. (TheKnot.com lists June, August, September and December as most popular for weddings.) Women without either a date, a husband or a child may not be expecting the happy event to be very happy at all, and that’s a shame.

Preparation is the key. A new dress is the easiest part; of course you’ll be the best looking female there. The toughest challenge is inside your head.

First, get some intel. Will anyone you know be there? Contact them in advance so they’ll know to look for you. For an out-of-town affair. you might even want to share a hotel room or explore the city together.

Single ladies should remember that most guest lists include several eligible single men, since they’re rarely as bothered by being dateless. That won’t guarantee you’ll find your own dream guy in the crowd, but you may find a dance partner other than the groom’s lascivious widowed uncle.

Because you will dance, not hide in a corner. Heck, if Pippa Middleton and Kristen Stewart can hold their heads up as single wedding guests, so can you. Watch out for the open bar, though. You never want to be memorable for the wrong reasons!

The moment you may want to avoid the dance floor is when the DJ fires up Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” to signal the throwing of the bouquet. It might be a good time to head to the ladies’ room or take a stroll outside instead. In this instance, hiding can be an acceptable option. If you choose to participate in this traditional ritual of bridesmaids and bride’s friends, fine.  But if not, beware of tipsy family members eager to shove you into the fray while yelling, “Get out there, honey!”

Who’s at your dinner table? Don’t sink into depression if you’re surrounded by couples. They’ll talk with you if you talk with them. Once the conversation progresses beyond “How did you meet the bride or groom?”, launch into a topic to get some laughter going. Upcoming summer plans, or asking tablemates  to share their craziest wedding story.

The guests who get the bad rap at any wedding are often the newlyweds’ relatives. They may mean well, but questions like “When are you next?”, “Why doesn’t a pretty girl like you have a husband?” or “You don’t have kids? What are you waiting for?” can kill your party vibe.

Practice how you’ll respond, and exit. Stick and move, as the boxers say. “I’ve been wondering the same thing!” “I had a husband, and I’m better off without him!” “Waiting? I love my life just as it is!” Followed by, “Oh! Excuse me, but that’s my college roomie over there!” and move on to (hopefully) a less stressful group of people.

Ultimately, you decided to attend the wedding because you wanted to share a friend’s happiness. And at the end of the day, a wedding can be a great party, if you let it.

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2 Responses to “Single & Childless at the Wedding? No Worries.”

  1. Samantha says:

    The best wedding I ever attended was one in which the bride and groom invited only the people they knew and liked, without their significant others. There were exceptions for couples with whom the bride and groom were close, but work friends, women pals, guys friends – were invited singly.

    It was so relaxed! I was at the bride’s work friends’ table, where we had a ball. The other tables – groom’s work friends, the groom’s rowdy buddies, the bride’s women posse – seemed to be enjoying themselves as much as we were.

    I loved having an afternoon off from babysitting my husband among strangers,and cut loose and had a ball.

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