Answer: (D) None of the above.
The question posed on the Psychology Today (PT) website asks, Do childfree women have more friends than women with kids?
This is a twist on the the assumption that NotMoms have oodles of time on their hands. The misperception continues that with so much time available, we must have lots of friends, and together we just shop, shop, shop with all of our millions in disposable income that we’re not spending on children or stashing away in college funds.
I guessed that the answer to this particular version of The Question was “No,” and I was right.
Ellen Walker, Ph.D., author of the book reviewed here titled Complete Without Kids, is also the author of the PT story posted online this week. She writes that while 1 in 5 women are childfree, 4 of 5 women are mothers. The result is that like many NotMoms, she feels like “a misfit in a group of other women [our] age.”
Dr. Walker interviewed dozens of women without children by choice and by chance for her book. She found that the feeling that it’s actually more difficult for NotMoms to build friendships than it is for their childbearing friends is fairly universally experienced.
And so, another fallacy falls…along with all that extra time and money I’m supposed to have.