By Laura LaVoie
Restaurants banning screaming babies are getting a lot of press these days. The childfree population is praising these policies, while families with babies are angry about their exclusion. There are deeper issues than just what we see on the surface of the conversations, so let’s have a look at the implications.
I’ve recently been a part of two conversations about restaurants that don’t allow children. Let me recap them for you.
First, a family member, who also has no kids, posted to Facebook this article about a California restaurant that decided to ban children. Since he has no kids, my relative also has a lot of friends with no kids, and they all quickly jumped into the conversation. To be honest, some of the comments were quite insulting, such as referring to people as “breeders”, or kids as “crotch fruit.” They even made me uncomfortable, and I don’t have or like kids.
Soon, the negative Facebook chatter attracted parents’ attention. My relative’s recently married cousin (who is now expecting her first child) was very upset by the article,and the way she interpreted it as well as the commentary. She was angry that she and her soon-to-be-baby would be excluded from public places. She lashed out that she hoped that people had to deal with screaming babies and that it served them right. She eventually rage-quit the conversation while letting the non-parents know that they were mean, horrible, awful people.