Childless and childfree women come in lots of shapes and sizes. We are all colors, all cultures, and all ages. As much as we have in common, we are also very different. Some people say it is strange to define ourselves by things that we are not, so let’s determine what we are instead.
Childfree blogger Laura LaVoie interviews women bloggers without children who answer the question, “If you’re not a Mom, then what are you?
Interview 9 introduces fantasy and science fiction author Jill Valuet who’s been published in several short story anthologies. In her blog, Making It Up As I Go Along, she shares her writing process, what she’s reading, and her life in general. As it turns out, not having children influences her work.
Tell us about yourself and your blog.
I write fantasy and science fiction short stories and am also working on 2 novels. Currently, writing is a hobby, but I hope to someday turn it into a profession. I use the blog to talk about my progress in writing, any submissions I make and some of the hurdles I encounter along the way. I also use the blog to keep track of the books I read.
Does being a NotMom affect the way you develop characters?
I would have to say yes, though I admit I never thought about it quite like that. I don’t think I have a single main character that has children.
What makes you want to write?
I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. Stories take up a lot of space in my brain, so I have to write to get them out. It’s a creative outlet that I find immensely satisfying, no matter the quality of the story. I like the escapism of creating my own worlds and figuring out what the characters’ everyday problems would be.
Do you have a NotMom who inspires you?
There are real people that I find inspiring, but not because they don’t have children. I find inspiration in people who do the things I want to do.
What about fictional NotMoms in fantasy?
What those 3 [NotMom] characters have in common holds true with the ones that have kids: I find inspiration from independent heroines who save the day. As it turns out, a lot more characters have kids than I thought. I guess it means I need to keep writing the kinds of characters that don’t have children and hope they can be an inspiration to others someday.
How important is it for NotMoms to be represented on the Internet?
It’s absolutely critical. There are plenty of NotMoms out there and we are full of interests and hobbies that have nothing to do with children. Advertisers are missing out on reaching people like me.
What do you want advertisers and readers to know about women without children?
Every NotMom has her own reasons for not having children. For me, I never wanted them. So, seeing ads for kid-related things is a guaranteed way to turn my attention elsewhere. Advertising that is catered more towards what I do and what I enjoy is going to garner much more favorable results. It’s as simple as that.
If you’re a blogger who happens to be a NotMom, share your story with us.