It wasnât intentional, this thing I have about reality TV. Â I started with one, and they multiplied like rabbits. I said there were certain ones Iâd NEVER watch (talkinâ âbout you, Real Housewives ofÂ Beverly Hills) and wound up addicted nonetheless. This year, more than any other, issues related to babies, and the lack of them, seem to have come up in every show. Tears, bodaciousness and more GYN visits than the average cable series, for sure.
Example 1: The Atlanta Housewives were joined by Kenya MooreÂ this season. A Former Miss USA, she admits she didnât win Miss Congeniality for a reason.
In this clip, you only get a hint of her Prime Directive to have a baby. NOW. Sheâs bought the house, found the guy, and lets him know every flippinâ episode that she wants to get married and have babies. NOW.Â Iâm all for speaking up for what you want, but, damn.
âPeople have asked us about adoption. I believe in adoption, but I feel like my husband and I should be able to have our own biological child. Weâre still doing everything we can, so Iâm going to keep trying that route.â
All good wishes to Lisa and her husband, but if dealing with infertility is hard, doing it in front of TV cameras is harder. Even the Kardashians know that.
Example 3:Â Last fall, Khloe K, 28, learned how real reality shows can get when cameras captured the moment she learned her body is failing to ovulate.
Some folks believe the whole thing is just another part of a scripted drama, but I believed Khloe when she told Good Morning America:
âI never knew all the difficulties with getting pregnant. I think that my mom has so many kids, and Kourtney pops them out like a PEZ dispenser, so you think itâs, like, so easy. You realize itâs not as easy as you might think.â
She invited America in, and now we all know about Khloeâs fertility treatments amid rumors that her marriage is on the rocks. Wow. I actually feel sorry for a Kardashian.
Example 4:, Carole RadziwillÂ was the first in the Housewives family to declare a childless-by-choice lifestyle when she joined the New York cast in 2012. She made it clear sheâs childfree in the very first episode, complaining about women who get together and talk about their kids. She thinks that if such chatter is boring to NotMoms like her, itâs probably just as dry for some of the Moms, too.
The big deal here is that Carole isÂ the niece of Jacqueline Kenndy Onassis. At 28 she married into the royal family of Poland. (Hint: It didnât last.)
NotMoms facing on-screen reproductive reality arenât limited to TV, of course. Â This month I finally got to see the Katy Perry concert-ography, Part of Me. Â Unfortunately for her, the year she chose to be followedÂ by cameras just happened to be when new husband Russell BrandÂ reportedly became insistent to reproduce. Her marriage didnât survive it.
The film shares Katyâs tears as she shares an often ignored fact:
âA baby canât have a baby,â she said.
For all the name-calling and weave/extension/wig-pulling, these ladies bare their very real lives, and surprise! Basic truths hold true.Â When it comes to having babies, no woman is guaranteed that experience. When it comes to not wanting babies, even princesses can get that âfish-out-of-waterâ feeling. Say what you will about these shows, in this case, they let NotMoms know theyâre not alone.