Today I met a woman who discovered this site “by accident” and happens to live in the same city as I do. We met for lunch and i spent much of it marveling at her comments that brought online responses to life. Her story: Now a franchise business owner, she married in her 40s. She knows that the fact that her 3 closest girlfriends are also NotMoms is a special blessing in itself.
Fired up with enthusiasm for the lack of “poor me” sentiments at TheNotMom.com, she offered several encouraging suggestions for growth. The idea I liked best was to connect and reach out to every woman on the Famous NotMoms page through Twitter. Why didn’t I think of that? Analytics consistently show that to be the site’s most popular page. Why? Why not? Who doesn’t like to find someone else like themselves? Who doesn’t want a tribe? A community?
The women I met today was African American. She said she’s in her 50s. She already belongs to several “communities,” but this site revealed one more, and she was happy to find it. “Every woman without children has something in common with other women without children, whether we chose ‘no kids’ or not,” she told me. “There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find a group that understands you at your core.”
Before I could say anything, the woman shared that her 3 best girlfriends on the planet are NotMoms, too. She is very, very aware that she is blessed to have her closest friends already in sync with her lifestyle and recurring concerns. As for she and I, it was, as they say, a very good lunch.
Back in the office, I’m already busy putting her suggestion into action, hooking up with Famous NotMoms on Twitter. It was a really good idea from an unexpected source. Are you an unexpected source, too? If you have a suggestion to grow the reach or mission of this site, please let us know.