Childless Theatergoers: It’s OK to See Kids’ Films Without A Kid

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How could I ignore this headline?

‘Solo & Childless: Why I Almost Didn’t Watch ‘Despicable Me 2′

The post on Entertainment Weekly‘s website is by Sandra Gonzalez, who “hates going to watch family films alone.” She details her dread of what she felt was “the worst part of the experience “: buying a ticket. As expected, the theater rep reinforced her self-determined status as a misfit by asking, “Just one?”

Her imaginary response:

“Yes, I’m alone. I’m single and childless and I didn’t ask my friends if anyone wanted go and all appropriately-aged tiny human relatives live in Phoenix and Texas and stop looking at me that way.”

Once inside, realizing that a kid’s focus IS the movie, and that a parent’s focus is mainly on the kid, she relaxed and enjoyed herself. It’s a good motivational story, and I’m glad she shared it. Because I’ve been there, and I didn’t do that.

I LOVE animation and frankly, a lot of kid-type stuff. But, I only go to a movie theater when I really, really want to see something on the big screen. An animated feature – with its attendant issues – has to be spectacular. There have only been a few family flicks that I wanted to see so badly that I didn’t want to wait for DVD. And yet, I’ve never done it on my own .

When The Lion King was released in 1994, I was seriously fretting that motherhood might not happen for me, and trying to decipher my feelings. No adult friends wanted to see it, and there was enough melancholy in me about kids to steer clear. Like Ms. Gonzalez, I “knew” I’d stand out, a pitiful figure, alone.

Five years later, my 45th birthday was behind me and I was learning how to manage newly diagnosed diabetes. The decision to give up on the whole kids idea dropped me into a cloying, lasting funk. I passed on Toy Story (1995), Finding Nemo (2003), and The Incredibles (2004).

When Toy Story 3 came out in 2010, HubbyMine went with me. Guess what? Eight o’clock showings have few kids. Duh. I decided that maybe I could handle a kids’ movie alone after all. But in 2012, I missed seeing Brave with a big-screen Merida in (the red-haired supergirl above) because of a scheduling mishap with a NotMom girlfriend who wanted to see it, too.

I’m glad I saw Ms. Gonzalez’s post – it reminds me of who I am…now. So, look for me at the theater for Finding Dory in 2015. I’ll probably be alone.


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6 Responses to “Childless Theatergoers: It’s OK to See Kids’ Films Without A Kid”

  1. Paula K says:

    I’, 53 & husband is 60. No kids. Tomorrow we’ll be seeing Despicable Me part two,
    and we’ll be going to see Monsters University as well. Whenever The Incredibles is on TV, we’ll watch! We’ve seen Frankenweenie, with my 12 year old nephew, but most of the time, we’re happily there on our own.

    • Karen Malone Wright says:

      Yay you! Hope you’ll report back with your opinion on the newest minions. Thanks for commenting.

  2. [...] Of all the adults who enjoy books, games, and other entertainments earmarked for children and youths, I have no idea how many don’t have kids of their own. Because I believe a good number of NotMoms would place themselves in that category, as I do, recent posts took a child-free person’s viewpoint to amusement parks and animated “family” films. [...]

  3. [...] Of all the adults who enjoy books, games, and other entertainments earmarked for children and youths, I have no idea how many don’t have kids of their own. Because I believe a good number of NotMoms would place themselves in that category, as I do, recent posts took a child-free person’s viewpoint to amusement parks and animated “family” films. [...]

  4. pooslie says:

    that’s not a real finding Dory trailer, its is a fanvid from clips from the first movie.

    • Karen Malone Wright says:

      I agree. I don’t think there IS an official trailer yet. I chose between this and Dory’s greatest hits. Thanks.

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